My Fleep:
New Age
New Age
Success Does Not Fit My Self-image
Do you have a successful self-image? Could it be that your
old self-image is sabotaging your weight loss, health,
career, relationships, or prosperity?
As a Marriage, Family Therapist, I had the opportunity to
counsel many clients of all ages. My clients taught me that
we all have a self-image. Unfortunately, we are often
unaware of what it is, because it is usually hidden in our
subconscious. Therefore, even though we strive so hard to
reach our goals, if our self-image is not in alignment with
our success, we are likely to sabotage our efforts.
For example, if your image of yourself is that of an
employee, you are not likely to allow yourself to become a
manager. It just does not fit your self-image.
If you see yourself as unlovable, you will probably push
away the one who tells you, "You are lovable." If you have
an image of yourself as being poor, you very well may
sabotage your financial success and any chance to move up
in your career.
For example, I wanted to join an exclusive tennis club in
California and I heard myself sabotaging my enrollment by
thinking negative thoughts. I do not have enough money. I
can not play tennis well. I have no time. People will not
want to play with me.
Since none of these statements were true, I recognized my
fear of success. Being a member of the exclusive tennis
club did not fit my self-image. I am a poor girl from
Brooklyn, New York.
My unconscious fears could not accept a poor girl image in
this club with wealthy people. Once I realized the issue, I
was able to use my HART process (Holistic And Rapid
Transformation) to update my self-image. I did allow myself
to join the tennis club and I had a wonderful time. I broke
through the fear that this particular success did not fit
my self-image.
How many clubs or organizations have you not joined,
because it did not fit your self-image?
This fear of success comes up very often in love
relationships. Susan, a twenty-six year-old attractive
blonde, was in tears as she told me how much she wanted to
be in a relationship. However, all the men in her life kept
leaving her. Susan felt she was unlovable.
In order for Susan to feel lovable, I guided her through a
HART process that helped her change her self-image. It was
not long before she began to attract more successful
relationships.
Donna, a forty-two-year-old graphic designer, had a problem
with obesity. Even though she set her intent to walk, join
a gym, and eat the foods and drinks that would help her,
she resisted all these positive changes.
When we explored the reason for her lack of follow-through,
Donna said, "I am afraid to lose weight because then I
would not know who I am." Donna's self-image was that of an
overweight woman. Once she changed her old self-image to a
new, slimmer one, she allowed herself to win the "battle of
the bulge".
Ray, a thirty-year-old lawyer was not doing well in his
practice. In the counseling process, he discovered that his
self-image was one of a waiter which is how he worked
himself through school. Once Ray updated his self-image to
being a professional, his practice picked up considerably.
If you do not have a successful self-image, it is time to
release the old image and replace it with one that is in
alignment with your goals. You deserve success and
happiness. Go for it!
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©2007 Helene Rothschild, MS, MA, MFT, is a Marriage, Family
Therapist, intuitive counselor, speaker, and author. The
article is excerpts from her new book, "ALL YOU NEED IS
HART!” She offers phone sessions, teleclasses, books,
e-books, MP3 audios, tapes, posters, independent studies,
and a free newsletter. http://www.lovetopeace.com ,
1-888-639-6390.
Do you have a successful self-image? Could it be that your
old self-image is sabotaging your weight loss, health,
career, relationships, or prosperity?
As a Marriage, Family Therapist, I had the opportunity to
counsel many clients of all ages. My clients taught me that
we all have a self-image. Unfortunately, we are often
unaware of what it is, because it is usually hidden in our
subconscious. Therefore, even though we strive so hard to
reach our goals, if our self-image is not in alignment with
our success, we are likely to sabotage our efforts.
For example, if your image of yourself is that of an
employee, you are not likely to allow yourself to become a
manager. It just does not fit your self-image.
If you see yourself as unlovable, you will probably push
away the one who tells you, "You are lovable." If you have
an image of yourself as being poor, you very well may
sabotage your financial success and any chance to move up
in your career.
For example, I wanted to join an exclusive tennis club in
California and I heard myself sabotaging my enrollment by
thinking negative thoughts. I do not have enough money. I
can not play tennis well. I have no time. People will not
want to play with me.
Since none of these statements were true, I recognized my
fear of success. Being a member of the exclusive tennis
club did not fit my self-image. I am a poor girl from
Brooklyn, New York.
My unconscious fears could not accept a poor girl image in
this club with wealthy people. Once I realized the issue, I
was able to use my HART process (Holistic And Rapid
Transformation) to update my self-image. I did allow myself
to join the tennis club and I had a wonderful time. I broke
through the fear that this particular success did not fit
my self-image.
How many clubs or organizations have you not joined,
because it did not fit your self-image?
This fear of success comes up very often in love
relationships. Susan, a twenty-six year-old attractive
blonde, was in tears as she told me how much she wanted to
be in a relationship. However, all the men in her life kept
leaving her. Susan felt she was unlovable.
In order for Susan to feel lovable, I guided her through a
HART process that helped her change her self-image. It was
not long before she began to attract more successful
relationships.
Donna, a forty-two-year-old graphic designer, had a problem
with obesity. Even though she set her intent to walk, join
a gym, and eat the foods and drinks that would help her,
she resisted all these positive changes.
When we explored the reason for her lack of follow-through,
Donna said, "I am afraid to lose weight because then I
would not know who I am." Donna's self-image was that of an
overweight woman. Once she changed her old self-image to a
new, slimmer one, she allowed herself to win the "battle of
the bulge".
Ray, a thirty-year-old lawyer was not doing well in his
practice. In the counseling process, he discovered that his
self-image was one of a waiter which is how he worked
himself through school. Once Ray updated his self-image to
being a professional, his practice picked up considerably.
If you do not have a successful self-image, it is time to
release the old image and replace it with one that is in
alignment with your goals. You deserve success and
happiness. Go for it!
----------------------------------------------------
©2007 Helene Rothschild, MS, MA, MFT, is a Marriage, Family
Therapist, intuitive counselor, speaker, and author. The
article is excerpts from her new book, "ALL YOU NEED IS
HART!” She offers phone sessions, teleclasses, books,
e-books, MP3 audios, tapes, posters, independent studies,
and a free newsletter. http://www.lovetopeace.com ,
1-888-639-6390.