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Five Tips To Help You Boost Your Self-Esteem
Do you feel that you suffer from low self-esteem and that
it affects every area of your life?
Abraham Maslow described that there were two kinds of
self-esteem needs. The first is the need for respect from
others and the second is the need for self-respect. Self
respect includes a feeling of confidence, achievement,
competence and independence. Respect from others includes
acceptance, appreciation and recognition. Maslow suggests
that if these needs ar not fulfilled, a person will feel
unconfident, discouraged, weak and inferior.
So how can one improve one's self-esteem? How you feel
about yourself can vary from day to day.
Stop comparing yourself with others
We naturally tend to use others as benchmarks for our own
performance, attributes or abilities. Consequently we often
feel that we don't measure up to other people in our own
eyes or are not living up to what we perceive as other
people's expectations of us. There are always going to be
people that are better in some way to you but that is just
part of the richness and diversity of life and you will
also have many attributes that thousands of others do not.
So concentrate on what you do have, rather than on what you
do not.
Does it really matter what other people think of you? When
we are younger we try to fulfil family expectations but
once we are older we should try and live up to our own
expectations based on what we really want out of life. I
remind myself often of the saying: "What other people think
of me is none of my business".
Let bygones be bygones
Often we waste time and energy thinking about what has gone
wrong on in the past and let that control our present mood
and thoughts. Everyone makes mistakes and we need to
forgive and forget those made against us and move on. If
you hold a grudge against a person you are just giving your
power away to them and letting them control you.
Similarly, if you are still blaming yourself for past
mistakes, consider them as lessons that you have learnt
from and move on. Instead, concentrate on your
achievements, however small and every-day, as this will
help build your self-esteem.
Accept yourself as a unique person
You are unique - accept yourself as such! It would be a
very boring world if we were all the same, especially if we
were all perfect! So think about what you want in life, not
what you think you should want based on what you think
other people expect. It is you living your life, not them.
One way to give yourself a boost is exercise. Now this does
not have to be strenuous but a good walk 2-3 times a week
will help raise your endorphin levels which are the
'feel-good' hormones. Getting outdoors and the change in
scenery will also help stimulate your thoughts in a
positive way.
Keep a journal
Keeping a journal may sound like hard work but it is a very
rewarding experience. You need to update it on a regular
basis but does not need to be a daily chore. In the front
of it, write out a list of all your positive qualities.
Initially you may not think you have many but you can add
to it at later times. However, seeing them written down and
reviewing them each time you write your journal will help
reinforce them in your mind.
Also write a list of all your achievements in your journal
so that you can review and add to these over time.
In the journal, write about your feelings and perhaps what
triggers your low bouts of self-esteem if it fluctuates. As
you work on raising your self-esteem you will be able to
look back through your journal and see that you are making
progress and why there are certain times that you have a
high or low self-esteem. Progress will take time and you
may not be aware that you are making progress if you do not
record it in a journal.
Set some goals
If you want changes in your life you need to be specific
about them. The best way to achieve them is to write them
down and where better but in your journal!
Studies have shown that you are more likely to achieve
objectives and goals if you write them down and review them
on a regular basis. Be realistic in your goals and the
timeframes you set to achieve them by. If you do not
achieve them in time, do not consider that you have failed
but re-set the goal with more achievable parameters.
One way to help you achieve your goals is with
visualization. You need to be by yourself in a relaxed
state and visualize yourself as having already achieved the
goal. To feel the feelings and emotions that would go with
that achievement. This visualization process can be
enhanced by listening to suitable music which has been
specifically designed for this process.
To conclude, better self-esteem is possible for you if you
are willing to take control of your life and thought
processes.
----------------------------------------------------
Mike Jennings has a deep personal belief in the law of
attraction and the process of visualization. If you would
like some help in this area, please visit ==>
http://www.thesecretsofvisualization.com/Law-of-Attraction.html
Do you feel that you suffer from low self-esteem and that
it affects every area of your life?
Abraham Maslow described that there were two kinds of
self-esteem needs. The first is the need for respect from
others and the second is the need for self-respect. Self
respect includes a feeling of confidence, achievement,
competence and independence. Respect from others includes
acceptance, appreciation and recognition. Maslow suggests
that if these needs ar not fulfilled, a person will feel
unconfident, discouraged, weak and inferior.
So how can one improve one's self-esteem? How you feel
about yourself can vary from day to day.
Stop comparing yourself with others
We naturally tend to use others as benchmarks for our own
performance, attributes or abilities. Consequently we often
feel that we don't measure up to other people in our own
eyes or are not living up to what we perceive as other
people's expectations of us. There are always going to be
people that are better in some way to you but that is just
part of the richness and diversity of life and you will
also have many attributes that thousands of others do not.
So concentrate on what you do have, rather than on what you
do not.
Does it really matter what other people think of you? When
we are younger we try to fulfil family expectations but
once we are older we should try and live up to our own
expectations based on what we really want out of life. I
remind myself often of the saying: "What other people think
of me is none of my business".
Let bygones be bygones
Often we waste time and energy thinking about what has gone
wrong on in the past and let that control our present mood
and thoughts. Everyone makes mistakes and we need to
forgive and forget those made against us and move on. If
you hold a grudge against a person you are just giving your
power away to them and letting them control you.
Similarly, if you are still blaming yourself for past
mistakes, consider them as lessons that you have learnt
from and move on. Instead, concentrate on your
achievements, however small and every-day, as this will
help build your self-esteem.
Accept yourself as a unique person
You are unique - accept yourself as such! It would be a
very boring world if we were all the same, especially if we
were all perfect! So think about what you want in life, not
what you think you should want based on what you think
other people expect. It is you living your life, not them.
One way to give yourself a boost is exercise. Now this does
not have to be strenuous but a good walk 2-3 times a week
will help raise your endorphin levels which are the
'feel-good' hormones. Getting outdoors and the change in
scenery will also help stimulate your thoughts in a
positive way.
Keep a journal
Keeping a journal may sound like hard work but it is a very
rewarding experience. You need to update it on a regular
basis but does not need to be a daily chore. In the front
of it, write out a list of all your positive qualities.
Initially you may not think you have many but you can add
to it at later times. However, seeing them written down and
reviewing them each time you write your journal will help
reinforce them in your mind.
Also write a list of all your achievements in your journal
so that you can review and add to these over time.
In the journal, write about your feelings and perhaps what
triggers your low bouts of self-esteem if it fluctuates. As
you work on raising your self-esteem you will be able to
look back through your journal and see that you are making
progress and why there are certain times that you have a
high or low self-esteem. Progress will take time and you
may not be aware that you are making progress if you do not
record it in a journal.
Set some goals
If you want changes in your life you need to be specific
about them. The best way to achieve them is to write them
down and where better but in your journal!
Studies have shown that you are more likely to achieve
objectives and goals if you write them down and review them
on a regular basis. Be realistic in your goals and the
timeframes you set to achieve them by. If you do not
achieve them in time, do not consider that you have failed
but re-set the goal with more achievable parameters.
One way to help you achieve your goals is with
visualization. You need to be by yourself in a relaxed
state and visualize yourself as having already achieved the
goal. To feel the feelings and emotions that would go with
that achievement. This visualization process can be
enhanced by listening to suitable music which has been
specifically designed for this process.
To conclude, better self-esteem is possible for you if you
are willing to take control of your life and thought
processes.
----------------------------------------------------
Mike Jennings has a deep personal belief in the law of
attraction and the process of visualization. If you would
like some help in this area, please visit ==>
http://www.thesecretsofvisualization.com/Law-of-Attraction.html